My sons have been involved with the local Special Olympics Ski team for the past dozen or so years. Alex and his partner started skiing together when they were in 5th grade and stayed partners until they graduated from high school. It took Alex a year or so before he asked me what his partner's handicap was, he knew he was helping "handicapped" people but we never told him how each athlete was different from him. Some disabilities are more noticeable than others and it made me glad that Alex saw the other athletes as people and not for their disabilities. Daniel & Jake have also become Special Olympic Partners and eagerly look forward to Sunday night ski team training as well as the State Winter games in Cleveland. The whole family has become friends with athletes, parents and other partners that we see each year. The team is a huge family that cheers each other on and celebrates their accomplishments.
No one wakes up one day and says "I want to be disabled today" it just happens, either you are born with it or an illness or accident changes your life forever. Some disabilities are noticeable while others are invisible. If you would have asked me 10 years ago what my life would look like right now, I would never in a million years tell you that I would disabled. When my health blew up, I resisted the idea of filing for disability until I tried to return to work and found actually didn't have the same body & stamina I had a few months prior. I look okay on the outside but the inside is completely different. Some days I feel like my old self but other days I am completely exhausted, dehydrated and need downtime to get through the day. Luckily I have a great part-time job with an understanding boss who allows me to adjust my hours for late mornings or mid-afternoon naps and a very understanding husband who doesn't complain if dinner isn't made or the house isn't immaculately clean. The hardest part about being declared disabled was drastic change in my life. Once my body healed enough to where I could start helping out at the kids schools, running errands and keeping up the house, I found that I really didn't fit in anywhere. All my friends from work were still working there and I was out of the loop, my other friends were working and I didn't know how to find new friends. I didn't know how to explain why I was no longer working and why I was disabled so people would understand that although I looked great on the outside, my body didn't work normally anymore. It took a while but I found my place and and sense of self again.
When you see someone out that has a handicap sticker, medical backpack or disability that sets them apart, remember that you can't always see their disability. It hurts when you are judged by others that have no idea what your life is like. When we became involved with Special Olympics I never realized how much it would teach my boys as well as how much the athletes have taught us. They show up ready to ski with a smile on their face, kind works and an enjoyment for life. Living, Loving and Laughing comes naturally to them and they are an inspiration to everyone around them.
Love to all,
Michelle
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